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Love the Person, Forgive Their Imperfections by Rogue-Ranger Love the Person, Forgive Their Imperfections by Rogue-Ranger
You may have heard some Christians use the phrase, "Love the sinner, hate the sin." You may have even used it yourself. But not only is this found nowhere in the Bible, but it has led to unintended and even intended hurt. So, if you are a Christian who has used this phrase, consider the following.

Christ teaches to love everyone; friends, neighbors, strangers, enemies, everyone. He never says "love the sinner" and only uses "sinner" when repeating what the Pharisees accuse him, which is associating with "those people." You may think, but we're all sinners, so it's the same thing? No. Christ did not come to define anyone as a sinner, but to set them free from sin. He separated the actions from the person. How? Forgiveness. This is an example for how we are to treat others.

Because of some Christians, the word "sinner" has a lot of baggage to the point where many people think it means that someone is a terrible person, when in fact sins are just imperfections and people who sin are just imperfect people. In other words, everyone's a sinner for being imperfect, but calling them a sinner is insulting and condemning them. We are not God.

How would you want to be treated? Christ taught to treat others as we'd like to be treated, to put ourselves in their shoes. Would you want to be condemned for your imperfections, miatakes and regrets or be forgiven for being human?

So, if we have to consider people actually people and not sinners, can we still hate their sin? No. What happens when you hate something someone does or did? It creates negative feelings inside you. Maybe someone sinned against you by harming you. So long as you hate what they did, you do not love them. To love someone, you must forgive them. Love always forgives. Holding onto hurt isn't forgiving. The Greek word Christ uses means to permanently cast away. So, tell them what they did and then forgive.

But what if someone is doing something that harms themself, a sin against themselves like self harm? Concern is not hate. Do not confuse the two. If you hate what they did, that hate will block your concern for them and prevent you from showing the love necessary to help them. They need support, not condemnation.

But didn't Christ teach to avoid sin? Of course. Anything that is not done out of love is a sin. And, since we're imperfect, that's a lot of what we all do every day. Any time you pass by a homeless person and ignore them because you're too busy is a sin. Every time you are rude to a cashier who made a mistake because you're both having a bad day is a sin. Even being mean back to someone who was mean to you is a sin.

The thing is, everyone is imperfect, so Christ teaches to love everyone and resist sin in your life. Yes, your life. See, your own sin makes you incapable of fairly judging others sin. It's like the log in your eye analogy. In other words, if you want to make the world a better place, you have to start with yourself. Don't go around judging others for being imperfect like you. Forgive them instead. After all, Christ very explicitly says you must forgive or you will not be forgiven. You have regrets and so do they or will they.

What if someone really doesn't like the way someone else is living their life? Can't we hate their life and love them? No. You can't say "I love you but I hate the way you live" without twisting words and meanings. If a teacher teaches and we hate teaching, we hate the teacher because both they and we label them by what they do.

Similarly, if you say you love a drug addict, but hate that they do drugs, you hate them by connecting them to what they do. You must separate the person from what they do to remove judgement and embrace love. You must forgive their actions, no matter what they are to remove judgement and only then can you help out of love. They are not a drug addict. They are a person you care about. Similarly, they are not a sinner, but a person. The sin is something apart from them that can change and is forgivable. See who they can be, just as Christ saw who we could be.

Sometimes people will justify condemning someone for who they are or what they do by saying "I'm not perfect, just forgiven." This is often a way to claim someone is better than someone else by being forgiven and therefore qualified to judge another as unforgiven. But if you don't forgive them, Christ was clear that you are not actually forgiven. In fact, it makes you an unforgiven hypocrite. It's no wonder some even call parts of God's plan and creation sinful or think of others as lower than them. When you do this, you become like the Pharisees who condemned Christ for associating with "sinners" and not "righteous" people like them. Yet Christ condemned those "righteous" people and said he didn't know them. So, will Christ know you?

But doesn't only God have the power to forgive others for their own personal sins? You may not be able to save someone, but you always have the power to forgive someone. If you are bothered by the actions of someone else, you need to let those negative feelings go. They are your feelings. That is part of the power of forgiveness in your life, releasing what brings you down. Only after you are free can you lead anyone else to freedom.

So, should we just ignore what anyone does, even if it harms others? No. If someone hurts you, tell them so that they have the opportunity to learn. If they take the opportunity is up to them, but if you forgive is up to you.

Don't rush to judge them or hate their actions. Act solely out of love. Do you care about those they hurt? You don't need to hate what happened to care about who it happened to. Hate won't prevent it from happening again, just as anger won't save lives but a cool head will.

Do you also care about those who did the hurting? Remove the anger and hatred and you'll see clearer to act out of love in a way that protects and heals. Saying "I hate what they did" will never be as effective as empathy and will only bring you down. Again, Christ commands permanent forgiveness.

But what about those people who will never change? You don't need to hold onto hate to protect yourself and others. Maybe they won't change, but that's between them and God. It's not in your power to condemn anyone to a lifetime of being stuck in sin. Forgive them as you have been forgiven for your sins. Show them the hope and love you've found in Christ. Maybe someday the seed of love you planted in their life will bloom. You may not be around by then, but that doesn't mean it doesn't matter.

Embrace love and forgiveness in everything you do and give up the phrase "love the sinner, hate the sin" and instead embrace, "love the person, forgive their imperfections."

Quotes from Christ:

"A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another." (John 13:38)

"For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins." (Matthew 6:14-15)

"Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you. If someone slaps you on one cheek, turn to them the other also. If someone takes your coat, do not withhold your shirt from them. Give to everyone who asks you, and if anyone takes what belongs to you, do not demand it back. Do to others as you would have them do to you." (Luke 6:27-31)

"You have heard that it was said, ‘Love your neighbor and hate your enemy.’ But I tell you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you." (Matthew 5:43-44)

"Do not judge, or you too will be judged. For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you. Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when all the time there is a plank in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye." (Matthew 7:1-5)

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Limnoria Featured By Owner Jan 11, 2017
That first quote ("love the sinner, hate the sin") stands in direct opposition to one I've heard used in sports ("hate the player, not the game"). 
I wonder if anyone uses both non-ironically...
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SwervinMervin Featured By Owner Mar 10, 2017  Student Digital Artist
Huh, funny... With regards to the latter, I heard the polar opposite: "Don't hate the player, hate the game."
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Limnoria Featured By Owner Mar 13, 2017
I've never heard that version... that's seriously weird. :XD:
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Rogue-Ranger Featured By Owner Jan 14, 2017  Hobbyist General Artist
Hmmm...come to think of it, I've never heard those two put next to each other. :shrug:
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Sigfriedofgaea Featured By Owner Dec 9, 2016  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
But doesn't "Love the sinner, hate the sin," imply, "Love the person, forgive their imperfections"?

"Love the sinner" taught me was that we should never judge someone based on their actions.  We may not agree with a person's actions, but that doesn't mean he/she is any less eligible of our love. 

"Hate the sin" taught me that the inverse was also true... that just because we love someone doesn't mean that his/her sin is any less wrong.  But the sin does not define the person who committed it, so I don't see how "hating the sin" translates to "hating the sinner".

The two of them together taught me to keep sin separate from sinner.

What will it matter if we hate one's sin?  It simply gets washed away with reconciliation... but if we hate the person who committed the sin for committing the sin, then that's a whole different thing altogether... that would be a problem with forgiving one another.

I can list off several examples where my brothers have said/done something to me that I didn't like.  I hated what they did... but I still loved them all the same.

If anything, I suppose the motto can be modified to "Love the person, forgive their imperfections, hate the sin."  But it'd be a grave mistake to leave out the emphasis on rejecting the sin.  It's a reminder to stay vigilant. 

I hate my sin.  But I don't hate myself...
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Rogue-Ranger Featured By Owner Dec 10, 2016  Hobbyist General Artist
You make an excellent point! As I say in the description, people have a terrible time with separating people from their actions (calling people criminals and drug addicts for example) and I was really just advocating for seeing the people so that forgiveness can begin. But, yes, you're right that we shouldn't excuse sin. Its just that the emotion of hate can run away in people, from hatred of others based on what they do to hatred of self. Until we humans can move beyond that, we still need reminders we are not what we do but can change. Though, it's hard phrasing that just right. :)
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Sigfriedofgaea Featured By Owner Dec 10, 2016  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
Thanks! :D

I understand.  Shift the focus a little. :)
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Rogue-Ranger Featured By Owner Dec 10, 2016  Hobbyist General Artist
Exactly! :aww:
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Little-rolling-bean Featured By Owner Nov 1, 2016  Hobbyist General Artist
I love this stamp so much. Although, does this mean the law should forgive the criminals too and not punish them for their actions? Or forgive them but still punish them to keep humans safe?
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Rogue-Ranger Featured By Owner Nov 17, 2016  Hobbyist General Artist
Thank you! I was speaking more on a personal level, imperfect humans forgiving fellow imperfect humans, but it can apply to the law as well. Rehabilitation can be more effective than punishment in many individuals. Excessive punishment, on the other hand, can lead to resentment of the system and recidivism. It's like how children who are physically punished become more disobedient than children who are taught when they make mistakes. Someone must understand the natural consequences of their actions (how they hurt others) or the artificial consequences imposed by laws will only make them resentful and pose a risk of retaliation.

Of course, we must realize that everyone is different and will have different reasons for what they do. If someone is a proven danger to others, it is safer to keep them away from others if and until they can be rehabilitated. I am against physical punishments, including torture, and believe far too many people are in prison, but some people do need to be humanely kept away from others if they could hurt them.
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Little-rolling-bean Featured By Owner Nov 17, 2016  Hobbyist General Artist
Good point! And I agree, help does much better than punishment.
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ReaverPan Featured By Owner Oct 1, 2016  Hobbyist Artist
interesting Point but her'es my answer the Bible might not say we should love the sinner and not the sin however it does make a point in other verses that God loves the sinner and not the sin.
Her'es what Bible does say , ALL have sinned and fallen short of the Glory of God.
You and I both are sinners from the start except for when we are babies. Before being saved we are sinners but even when we get saved we are still capable of sinning and whenever we do we take that to the Lord. We can't forgive people of their sins, what this means is we don't have the power to say if a person can or can't go to Hell. However we can say a Sin is bad and we need to not live in our sin. As you stated We ourselves need to avoid doing sin. However the thing is we aren't perfect and can easily sin. We are always going to struggle withourselves. Whenever we sin we are being sinners, and if we regret that in our hearts then we ask God to forgive us. We don't ask people to forgive us because neither I or you can save a persons soul. Now we can forgive people who did us wrong but we can't forgive them fdor sinning. When people sin They are doing GOD wrong, That why they must go to God and ask him to forgive them of there sins. If someone did you wrong, would you hate them or Love them? God does not hate, he Loves us and that's why Why he did what he did for us. It's like if you robbed somone but they payed for your bail. However you keep it up and it will  get to a point wer'e they'll stop letting you visit.Stealing is a Sin and you got to let go of itand grow out of it. See sinning can be like a bad habbit or life choice, it's something you can give up but it's a chalenge. like maybe you give into you anger, or gossip or you tell lies, or lust after someone or something else the Bible sais is wrong.
Here's the thing If God can Love a SINNER that means he loves anyone right? It means even a sinner can have hope . Even a siiner can change. and so the term does not mean your going to hell no matter what, it means you Have a chance.  It's not saying we view anyone as sinner or below us, it means the only reason we are saved now is because We were given a chance to ask Jesus into our lives. It means he died on the Cross. The bible itself sais For God so loved the world that he gave his only begotten son that the World may be saved. And Jesus himself said Who so ever believeth in me and confesseth that they are a sinner will be saved.
Thing is we have to bring up the part about Sinner is because all have sin and can sin. Only God is perfect and yet he Loves us, me you. Even Hitler was loved by God although I doubt Hitler will be in heaven, but I''m sure there are other Tyrants and killers who are because they confessed to God that they had sinned.

Thing is if my brother was still a crook I'd still Love him and pray for him but Would I be ok with what he's doing? No I'm afraid you have twisted the meaning by saying you can't hate one's actions and still love them. What if aloved one Beat you and you wished they'd stop  beating on you but you still loved them enough that you wouldn't leav them to die or rot in jail. You'd still visit them even after everything they have done.
you underestimate God's love if you don't think he's capable of Loveing someone for there crimes. He even loved cared for a man named Saul who persicuted his own People and blasfeamed his name! If you ask me That takes alot of Love to forgive someone who hates you. I mean he could of just stroke Saul down because obviosly he was not cool with haveing his people atacked and him being blasfeamed and all.  You better believe Saul was sinning. But God still healed his vision after being the one who blinded him. and Saul's named changed to Paul when he got saved.
Right there is a verry good example of loving an awful sinner and giveing him a chance.
So hate the sin of COURsE God does, but hate the sinner? If God can disaprove of even the worst things we do like rape, kill and blasfeam and yet still want to give us a place in his home where we can live forever and never suffer anymore, Then He Down right loves us Despite how bad we can be and only askes that we give it all up and accept him into our hearts.

What if you had a child and that child  drank, swared like sailor, knived people and other crap you hated? Would you Love them? God does, yes even though what they are doing is destructive and wrong He loves them enough that he bore scars on his back from a cat of ninetails for them.
Because deep down these terrible people who do the worst of sins are like the rest  of us, they can still be redeamed. The racist, redeamable, the Blasfeamers, also redeambal if they realised they were wrong. Child molesters, yes even they can be be saved and give up there ways. That's how Awsome God is that he cares and loves even those who hate him.
The only person who will never get saved Is Satan.
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Rogue-Ranger Featured By Owner Oct 3, 2016  Hobbyist General Artist
Thank you for your comment and excellent points. Yes, I believe that anyone can be saved because of God's love for us.

God forgives us and, as scripture says, casts our sins as far from us as anything can be. We are also called to forgive others this same way. The Bible says to forgive those who sin against us, but many times we feel like we can't forgive sins, even though Christ was very clear we must. If we do not forgive others who sin against us, we will not be forgiven. And, when we pray, we ask to be forgiven our sins as we forgive those who sin against us.

In this way, we demonstrate God's love. We let go of what they have done. So long as a human holds hate in their heart for any event in the past, that hate is a part of them, like regret or longing, but forgiving someone isn't just about forgiving the person, but forgiving what they did as well. Once we forgive what they did, we must let that go or we have not truly forgiven them. Because of God's forgiveness, He doesn't see us as sinners but as washed and clean. We should therefore demonstrate this by not labeling others sinners but showing them love and mercy.

If you still hate what someone did to you, you have not moved on and truly forgiven them. Imagine if God did that, if He still thought of every thing we did against him and hated it all. How could we then still be called new creations? We couldn't because we would still be bound to the past in His eyes and still be dead. Instead, we are forgiven our sins and renewed daily. It is that great love and forgiveness that makes us want to be better people and avoid sins. It's like how the prodigal son returned because he knew his father loved him and that humbled him.

When a murderer is forgiven by God, it is like he never murdered anyone. He is no longer a murderer but a child of God. Let us treat others with the same love and forgiveness. :heart:
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ReaverPan Featured By Owner Oct 4, 2016  Hobbyist Artist
you are right we have to forgive people who have sinned against us, but we also must witness to those who are not liveing in Christ. I was never saying  we shouldn';t forgive people who did us wrong. And the term Sinner is necisary to establish when one has sinned. We don't hold people to there faults mind you and should never do that. However if a Person chooses to live in Sin they are a sinner. That doesn't make them less human it just means their soul is endanger of not reaching heaven and us forgiveing might help us but it won't save their soul. The only way they can be saved is if they ask Jesus into there lives and give up there sin.
God will always forgive our sins but he also knows are heart and we have to truely be sorry and regret our sin and truely want to change. The reason we can't judge others is because we can't read there minds or know what they are realy thinking or see there entire life. However if a person is doing something that is clearly sinful then we need to atleast let them know that it's wrong.  However we need to live by what the Bible sais not what we think or feel like. We will alway have those times where we are struggeling and may fall back into sin but thats why we got to keep praying to him and reading his word so that we may know the right way to live. Because there is no such thing as eternal securety, because Backslideing is a verry real thing. Backslideing is when someone falls back into sin and when they do that they have fallen away from Christ  and thus need to go back to him and repent.

You are right if a Murder repents and is truely sorry for his sins God will see this and forgive him or her and they will be saved.
And I will always pray for my fellow Christians that God will help them in there lives, just as I ask him to help me in mine.
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PhantomS14 Featured By Owner Sep 30, 2016  Hobbyist General Artist
Very true. Using! :D
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Rogue-Ranger Featured By Owner Oct 2, 2016  Hobbyist General Artist
Thank you! :aww:
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PhantomS14 Featured By Owner Oct 3, 2016  Hobbyist General Artist
Np ^^
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GoldenFairySusan Featured By Owner Sep 19, 2016
This is something what I have tried to tell my husband. Maybe he made mistakes, but I am not judging him of those mistakes. It is his past, not mine. Although he seems selfish sometimes, I love him.
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Rogue-Ranger Featured By Owner Sep 24, 2016  Hobbyist General Artist
No one's perfect and we all make mistakes or are selfish sometimes. Love let's us forgive all that, so I completely understand how you feel. :)
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GoldenFairySusan Featured By Owner Sep 24, 2016
Thank you. It is good someone is sending important message for everybody else.
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Rogue-Ranger Featured By Owner Sep 24, 2016  Hobbyist General Artist
Aww, you're welcome! :hug:
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shark235 Featured By Owner Edited Aug 7, 2016  Hobbyist General Artist
Amen. But that doesn't mean that you should agree on what they're doing, such as raping people or stealing things.
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Rogue-Ranger Featured By Owner Aug 7, 2016  Hobbyist General Artist
Yes, always tell someone what specially they did and then forgive them. As I say in the description, forgiveness doesn't mean justifying what someone does, but not holding animosity within ourselves toward them, as any feelings in us bring us down because they are our feelings.
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Graeystone Featured By Owner Aug 15, 2016
Also Forgiveness does not mean Justice gets nullified.
Yes I can forgive someone for doing something horrible to me but if the law of the land says that person goes to jail for what they did to me, then they should.
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shark235 Featured By Owner Aug 8, 2016  Hobbyist General Artist
Amen to that.
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RefreyarecSaga77 Featured By Owner Jul 6, 2016  Hobbyist General Artist
yes
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am-i-fluffy-pony Featured By Owner Jun 30, 2016  Hobbyist Artist
THIS IS AMAZING AND TRUE
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Rogue-Ranger Featured By Owner Jun 30, 2016  Hobbyist General Artist
Thank you! :aww:
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am-i-fluffy-pony Featured By Owner Jun 30, 2016  Hobbyist Artist
you're welcome! :heart:
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KuraiTsukiMajutsu Featured By Owner Jun 9, 2016  Hobbyist General Artist
Those quotes at the end...really got me. Love is love, bruh. You can't heal someone by hating.
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Rogue-Ranger Featured By Owner Jun 9, 2016  Hobbyist General Artist
Very true. Love heals. Hate hurts.
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KuraiTsukiMajutsu Featured By Owner Jun 10, 2016  Hobbyist General Artist
Exactly! Ah, I wish the world could realize this...
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JediKnightVaporeon Featured By Owner Jun 2, 2016  Student General Artist
Before I moved away from Christianity, I always believed of loving and respecting one another regardless of their upbringing or personal flaws.
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Rogue-Ranger Featured By Owner Jun 3, 2016  Hobbyist General Artist
That's a good philosophy to have. Do you still go by that now that you've moved away from Christianity?
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JediKnightVaporeon Featured By Owner Jun 4, 2016  Student General Artist
Absolutely! It's really common sense actually.
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GiantPurpleCat Featured By Owner May 19, 2016  Hobbyist Filmographer
I really like this phrase better than "Love the sinner and hate the sin". Everyone makes mistakes and no one is perfect, but we should forgive them anyways. Christians have always been taught to love and appreciate others, just as much as Jesus did.
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Rogue-Ranger Featured By Owner May 23, 2016  Hobbyist General Artist
Thank you and I agree completely!
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TGOM Featured By Owner May 11, 2016
That's what a real Christian would say! Even tho I'm a Pagan and I believe in many Gods, I believe in Jesus too. I believe He doesn't hate anything or anyone. He just can't hate, He is pure love and forgiveness.
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Rogue-Ranger Featured By Owner May 12, 2016  Hobbyist General Artist
I totally agree! :)
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MichaelCardamone Featured By Owner May 8, 2016
^_^ Very good.
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Rogue-Ranger Featured By Owner May 8, 2016  Hobbyist General Artist
Thank you! :aww:
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PrincessMagical Featured By Owner Edited Apr 30, 2016  Hobbyist Digital Artist
We are to hate sin because God hates sin.  We can pretend all we want or try to suppress the truth all we want but it won't change God's truth.  The whole reason Jesus came here and died on the cross was to save us from our sins.  He calls us to repentance, not continue in our sin.  So we love everyone as a person and we of course show grace and forgive but we hate their sin and pray for them.  Someone who steals, we love as a person but we hate the act of stealing.  We share God's truth in a loving way but don't support or celebrate sin.  We pray for people but we don't support whatever sin they are caught up in.  Prayer is the #1 weapon against Satan.

God loves us but He hates our sin and that’s why Jesus went to the cross.  To save us from our sins.  So yes, we love everyone as a person, we share God's truth in a loving way and pray for them.  But the sinful activity we don't support or celebrate or encourage.  When we are praying for people and sharing God's truth in a loving way, we are loving people the way God wants us to love.
 And ALL sins can be forgiven and overcome in Christ with repentance.
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Starrceline Featured By Owner Jun 24, 2016  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Amen, sister!~ :D
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Akhnaton-II Featured By Owner May 5, 2016  Hobbyist Digital Artist
You poor thing Hug I can't even be angry at you properly. I hope something good will happen to you soon, and your life will go back to normal.
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Rogue-Ranger Featured By Owner Edited Apr 30, 2016  Hobbyist General Artist
I know you mean well. Your story on your page is from the heart and you have been trying to do what you think will help people by leaving comments around DeviantART. You've been incredibly patient, even when people have been cruel to you. You honestly do love people, but haven't you ever wondered why Jesus, by word and by example, showed us to love unconditionally?

We are all imperfect and therefore, just as we can't love perfectly, we can't hate perfectly either. Hate creates malice, even if we try to tell ourselves it doesn't. Also, as humans, we are unable to enter someone's mind and heart from inside to transform and redeem them. Only God can do that, but He can use us. The problem is that the world and even the church tell us that people need to be condemned to change. So we go around judging each other. And what do we receive for judging others? Defensiveness and judgement back. This is why Christ was so specific about not doing this, of not hating someone else's sin.

When you first love someone unconditionally, they will open up to you about their sins, but if you first condemn their sins, which Jesus explicitly says not to do, they feel like you are condemning them and try to hide their sins from you to win back your approval. Just as telling a child you love them but hate how they do something makes them feel bad about themselves, people feel tied to their actions. They will never face their sin and actually resolve it. They'll just try to deny they have a problem until God Himself intervenes. But, if you love with no strings attached, you don't even need to know what they're sins are. That unconditional love will actually open them up and they'll tell you their sins voluntarily and actually face them and finally resolve them. There will be regrets you never knew they had that they trust you enough to tell you because they know you love them without judgment or thinking of them as a sinner.

Love the person, forgive their imperfections. Accept them just as they are, build a relationship and let Christ's love work through you to work in them for change. Love transforms. Hate can't do that, not in humans. You know it. You've seen it. You tell someone they should condemn their sin without even getting to know them. You say love, but don't give it time to work through you to reach others. So, instead, you see them defend or just hide their sin. They must know that your love is unconditional before they will be open to change. Yes, God hates sin, but you are not God or called to behave like God. Christ was God's example for us. So, be like Christ. In the end, you'll discover that it will actually be far more effective at getting people to confront their sins if you first love and forgive them as Christ did and then let them confess their sins. God will work through your love.

The reason it works this way and is what we are called to do is because we can't save anyone. Why? Because we can't condemn them in the first place. We can only love and forgive. We can't hold ourselves, as imperfect people, as judges over other imperfect people. When we do that, we're saying that Christ's death on the cross didn't matter and that sin still won. No. Love won. Love always wins.

It may be more time consuming to build relationships through unconditional love, but really God will be doing all the work through you. You'll be amazed when people come to you. You've seen it with people already touched by that unconditional love, so you know what works and doesn't. Love opens. Hate closes. Be someone who opens. And be open yourself. There's more God wants to revel through you, but it's going to take you being open to rethinking everything you thought you knew once again. :)
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Ghoul-Kin Featured By Owner May 1, 2016  Hobbyist General Artist
considering you said all this to someone who is anti lgbt you realize you just confirmed "yes being lgbt is wrong so just be nicer and love them unconditionally and people won't be lgbt anymore"  at least that's exactly how your explanation sounded. 
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Rogue-Ranger Featured By Owner May 3, 2016  Hobbyist General Artist
That wasn't my intention and I don't even think of a state of being as a sin since mistakes are actions (like my mistake here), but it's too late to edit the comment and a reply was never very probable to begin with. It's a psychological technique of building common ground, since I've seen every approach imaginable do nothing but reinforce her views. Well, it probably wouldn't have changed her mind anyway. It's going to take a tragedy.
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Ghoul-Kin Featured By Owner May 3, 2016  Hobbyist General Artist
i know it's probably not what you think but that's how people like her see it (unfortunately) and probably, if at all. sometimes people don't even become better after a tragedy they become worse or unchanging. what a waste unfortunately 
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SilentRisingSun Featured By Owner Apr 29, 2016  Hobbyist General Artist
Come to think of it, "love the person, forgive their imperfections" does seem to make more sense than "love the sinner, hate the sin".
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Rogue-Ranger Featured By Owner Apr 30, 2016  Hobbyist General Artist
Indeed. Plus, it's closer to what the Bible actually teaches. :)
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